Things My Boss Said To Me

"Debra, Just don't talk in these meetings. You talk about things and you don't know what you're talking about."

The irony of the statement above is that I get now paid for people to listen/read what I have to say. But when Boss Bob said this to me it was even more shocking because unbeknownst to him, the people that attended this weekly meeting frequently complained about HIM. They'd ask me afterwards, does Bob even listen in these meetings? We have to say things over and over. We have to repeat what happened in the previous meeting because he never remembers what happened. He never seems to know what's going on.

Luckily, due to these post meeting conversations, I promptly ignored his nasty comment. I knew that I knew what was going on. I knew that my contributions to the meetings were valued by the other people at the meeting. But had I not known these things, that comment could have really affected my self worth and confidence. And even better, when I was getting divorced from Bear, this very group of people offered me a job. Good thing I didn't be a good little girl and keep my mouth shut!

I used to entertain my non-Wall Street friends with these stories. They were always amazed at the rude things my bosses at Bear Stearns would say to me. So, I think I'll make this my Friday special and call it "things my boss said to me." Feel free to send me the rotten things bosses have said to you.